fantasy.

“This must be my dream.” - The 1975

We showcase a life that we’re not truly living in one way or another. This may not bother you and there’s nothing wrong with that. I believe it’s circumstantial according to the generation we’re living in. During the era of my parents they met up with their friends via word of mouth, flyers on the bulletin boards, and calling each other on home phones.

Simple isn’t so simple anymore.

Why do you follow certain people on social media? Do you do it because of your natural attraction to them, because their content is inspiring, because they’re humorous, or because you find satisfaction in knowing where they’re at in life in comparison to you? We’re in a world of adaptation and I’m all for it, we had to know that social media was never going to be the way it was when it was first created. However, is it too much to ask for everyone to feel empowered to share WHATEVER THEY WANT without feeling the need to review the caption for an hour or retake their photo 53 times? We’ve grown, our generation is changing and we’re adapting to new trends, whether they’ll be temporary or permanent, we’re clinging to them.

So, who are you.. for real?

Only you have the opportunity to know that. I say opportunity because many of us don’t quite understand who we are yet. Can you blame us? We’re surrounded by virtual voices pointing us in a million directions on how to live a successful, happy life. Thousands of people trying to tell us they know what decisions WE should make for OUR lives. It’s almost impossible to discover yourself, at least it feels that way. Many recognize this with social media and they decide to take a “break;” they stop using social media for a week, a month, or even a couple months, but refraining from social media alone doesn’t simply give you the satisfaction that you felt while you were using it. And what satisfaction is that? Social media is addictive for many reasons, one of them being a stress relief that fills the time. When you’re waiting in line, when you’re waiting to go out, when you’re on a date and not actively talking, you name it. Social media has become a comfort in silent moments and has now influenced us to feel more uncomfortable in silence than we’ve ever been before.

We’re living in a fantasy.

We have false expectations and false hopes for what life can be because we’ve allowed someone else to tell us how this beautiful thing is supposed to work rather than discover it for ourselves. Being healthy doesn’t always look like washboard abs or perky boobs with an hourglass figure. Being successful doesn’t always mean a beautiful car, a huge house, and lots of money. Validation doesn’t have to look like thousands of followers and likes. Maybe.. just maybe, your life is enough the way it is.

Discover YOUR path, make it unique to you, be proud, don’t hesitate to share your successes, your failures, your journey, and most importantly don’t be afraid to be content with who you are.. just the way you are.

sc.